“What matters is not how things are, but how they interact.“
– Carlo Rovelli, theoretical physicist, in his book, Reality is Not What It Seems
Relationships are the key to building our most powerful mind.
Our relationships with others build up beliefs, ‘cellular memory’, and neural networks that can help our brains become their most ‘human’: adaptive, resilient, creative, brilliant.
When relationships are absent, neglectful or abusive, they can block block us from accessing brain circuitry that makes us most human.
Our past influences our present
No matter how strong a connection we feel to someone, there is always a chance that our past experiences and insecurities may influence the current experience.
To increase our chances of honoring the incredible potential of relationships, we must stay open to learning about how our own distortions from past experiences may lead us to think and behave in ways that close off connection.
Having a sense of exploration, curiosity and wanting to be challenged are essential for building healthy connections, units and systems.
This Tuesday is the FINAL live seminar for Neuroscience of Emotion Regulation, Resilience and Communication! If you want to spend a mindful, embodied evening with me and ask personalized questions, this is your chance!
Topic: Relational Resilience: How to use Neuroscience to Build Thriving Families, Partnerships and Communities
recordings and beautiful notes (thanks to my incredible intern Gina D'Andrea-Penna) are sent to participants after the seminar.
In case you missed my last email, Episode 5 is out and people are reaching out to let me know how much they LOVED it....
Did you know that there are mechanics behind why we don’t do the things we know are good for us?
All this is tied to a very specific mechanism and system in our brain called the habenula.
This little-known structure flags us when it picks up that we are failing at something and then shuts down our systems to prevent us from feeling motivated to keep doing it. It’s a primal structure that also exists in other species and is one of the most powerful drivers of our behavior.
In this eye-opening interview with Dr. Kyra Bobinet, we discuss this brain structure and the importance of a very particular mindset that can help us bridge the gap between what we know is good for us and actually doing those things.
This is a powerful episode for anyone who is feeling challenged with procrastination, feelings of self-doubt, self-defeat, self-criticism.
I hope you enjoy this episode and share it far and wide with anyone you know who is hoping to make positive changes in their life and possibly feeling challenged with what it takes to make those changes.
I will continue to explore this topic and brain system in upcoming articles.
Ps- If you think someone would benefit from all of these resources, send them to this link so they can get my three free mini books and other bonus gifts that are for subscribers only.
Meet one of my amazing new Neuro-Coach clients, Andra Mihalcea!
Andra is an MSc student in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health at King’s College London, a Hatha Yoga Instructor and a Certified Institute of Integrative Nutrition Health Coach and Ambassador. We have just started our journey and are having amazing discussions about brainwaves, trauma, and system-approaches to helping others. She will be offering brain maps to her clients for coaching as well as for an upcoming retreat in Romania as a way to enhance their work and transformation.
Excited to see these clients take in such specialized information and apply it so beautifully to their content. Some clients have already been approached by new organizations requesting their expertise on international levels - amazing to see the increase in impact they are having! (more to come this fall on all of these incredible peer-experts).
*please note that the suggestions and exercises offered in these videos are not offered as a substitute for professional mental health care or medical care and are not intended to diagnose, treat or cure any mental health or medical conditions.
