Social brain networks: the hidden reason your brain judges, failure, mistakes, and other people

Who and what we surround ourselves with matters.

The human experience is filled with complexity, unpredictability and constant challenge. We have the brain architecture and physiology needed to constantly learn and adapt.. but we also need to be aware that the people and systems we are exposed to shape our brain, behaviors and futures.

Humans are signal transmission, detection & interpretation creatures. One of our key sources of signal-interpretation is from our social interactions.The signals we send and receive within relationships have the capacity to regulate or dysregulate our nervous systems. They also influence our judgments and evaluations of virtually everything in our environment and in our experiences of the world.*

We can use this to our advantage when we become more intentional about the signals we send out and surround ourselves with.

In this sense, we can use our relationships as a form of resilience and regulation.

We can do this in a few ways:

1) Increase our self-mastery by seeking out and learning from mature relationship models. People who use relationships as catalysts for growth AND safe harbors for lowering our defenses.

2) intentionally practice our ability to regulate ourselves and entertain multiple perspectives while we are in the presence of others.

3) Understand that ups and downs are part of the neurochemical package of being human.

4) Get more comfortable with rupture-and-repair as part of the process of building track records that we can survive and adapt to challenges.

5) Become more aware of how our own reactions and judgements about ourselves and others may be things we learned and internalized based on the relationships we saw around us growing up.

In this video, I go into the science behind how our brain uses social signals to judge failure, mistakes and other people.

With this information, we can get better at seeing through some of our own distortions so we can create more of what we want, rather than stay stuck in past-based patterns of limitation.