In order for you to have the impact you are hoping for, the people you are trying to influence need to be WILLING to be influenced by you.
How do you increase the chances of this?
By building trust and psychological safety first.
If your intentions are to correct, control, convince or change a person – they’ll sense this from you.
I’ve seen many teachers and leaders who want a person to do well, but they come across with the ‘vibe’ that they need to convince that person to change who they are.
This often ends up in the other person feeling defensive and resistant.
If you create a sense of defensiveness in others
– where they feel like who they are is not enough in your presence, you will keep them in that state of self-protection.
And this will lead them to not show you their best self.
We often think we know a person – but in all truth, we only know that person in the presence of us. Yes, they are responsible for the signals they send out – but we must understand that our signals affect them.
To spark change, trust must come first.
If your internal state and your intentions are focused on creating TRUST and SAFETY with another person, your micro-movements and micro-signals will reflect that.
Being a source of safety and steadiness gives people a sense that you are rooted, centered.
It makes you an ‘eye in the storm’ of human emotion and reactivity.
When you can give someone the feeling that they can finally let out their breath and relax when they’re in your presence, that’s when their nervous system will allow the highest structures of their brain to get the blood flow they need for creativity and focus.
That is the internal state you want to model and inspire in others to help them truly perform at their best.
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