Every signal you send—through your voice, your posture, the micro-expressions that flicker across your face—is being picked up by the nervous systems around you. Your tone activates their auditory processing. Your facial movements are tracked by their visual systems. Your breathing rhythm has the capacity to entrain with theirs.
And theirs are doing the same to you.
We are constantly, invisibly, regulating and dysregulating each other.
This is how mammalian nervous systems are built. We evolved in groups. Our survival depended not just on our individual capacity to detect threat, but on our collective capacity to signal safety—or danger—to one another.
So the question isn't just: "Am I regulated?"
That question still matters. Your own regulatory capacity is the foundation. You can't offer what you don't have access to.
But it's incomplete.
The deeper question—the one that shifts everything—is:
What am I contributing to the field?
Because you are always contributing something.
When you walk into a room carrying unprocessed activation, the room feels it. When you hold steady presence in the face of someone else's chaos, their nervous system registers that too. Not because you told them to calm down.
But because your regulated state became data their system could use.
This is the invisible curriculum. The transmission that happens beneath the words.
Here's what many people miss:
Your nervous system state is a delivery system for everything else you do - every person, system and interaction you want to influence.
And this is why collective dysregulation isn't just a societal problem to observe from the outside.
It's a field we are all participating in, moment by moment, through what we bring.
What does this mean in practice?
It means your regulation is more than self-improvement. It's Nervous System Leadership.
It means the work you do on your own nervous system—expanding your range, building your capacity to stay present when things get uncomfortable—isn't just for you.
It's for everyone your nervous system touches.
You are not just regulated or dysregulated.
You are regulating or dysregulating—actively, continuously, whether you're aware of it or not.
The question is whether you're doing it by default or by design.
The nervous systems around you are listening.
What are you transmitting?
If this resonates, join me for the next Master Class—a 90-minute deep dive into the science of buy-in, Nervous System Leadership and human transformation. We'll explore why people resist, how to reach them at the nervous system level, and why your regulated presence matters now more than ever. (see below for more details)
New Master Class
The world is dysregulated. Collective nervous systems on high alert.
And you—the coach, healer, leader, educator devoted to helping people transform—you feel it. Not as an abstract concept, but in your body. In the weight of conversations. In the tension that walks into the room before anyone speaks.
You know your work matters. You've seen the shifts. You've witnessed what happens when someone finally gets it—when insight lands and something reorganizes at a level deeper than cognition.
But here's the truth: without buy-in, even your best work won't change anything.
People have to engage before they can change. And engagement isn't a cognitive decision. It's a nervous system decision—made in milliseconds, beneath conscious awareness, based on signals most people never learn to read.
The Science of Buy-In and Human Transformation. LIVE masterclass*
Cost: $97
Date: February 18th at 1 PM MST
(can't attend live? Get the recording)
*PLUS an exclusive bonus: The Resonance Language Bank™ A framework to help you find and create phrases and framings that spark paradigm shifts for curiosity, connection and resonance, and help people expand out of resistance, division and defensiveness.
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