In our most recent session of the super regulators academy, we looked at resilience research and how our predictive brain (and heart) plays a role.
What we see from our most modern understanding of the brain is that
resilience is less about a "right strategy" and more about a different kind of listening...
A listening that tunes into the stream of intelligence our body is already broadcasting.
The signal we're already sending
Vibrational availability is the capacity to attune to live, present-moment data:
the micro-fluctuations moving through our body-brain system right now, instead of narrowing onto what we've already predicted.
And it runs both ways.
When We stay open, we transmit a signal that we're responsive to what others are sending too.
Their frequencies become our data, moment by moment.
Trusting emergence
Expanding our range can be uncomfortable.
It asks us to surrender to live signals as things unfold ... to iterate and adjust rather than force the moment to fit into our expectations.
- Tiny, responsive adjustments.
- Prediction errors as intelligence
When we feel a way you'd rather not feel, our system is generating data:
fluctuations, vibrational signatures.
These are Signals to decode: What do they tell us about our next move?
There's no golden ticket.
In fact, research on resilience shows that the most resilient individuals are often the hardest to predict in terms of which self-regulating strategy they'll use because they are so responsive to live feedback and adjusting constantly to what emerges (Bonnano, 2013).
- Sometimes the iteration is something brave.
- Sometimes it's humor or kindness.
- Sometimes it's a breath and the choice to say nothing at all.
No right move. Just A move (however tiny).. and our openness to the feedback that follows.
Then we adjust, continue, or switch.
That responsiveness is the resilience.
3 neuro-tools to prime Nervous System Literacy (in ourselves and in those we serve, teach and lead):
- Intelligence Inquiry. As we feel something uncomfortable, undesirable, or challenging, ask 'if this feeling were intelligent, what is it detecting?'
- Release the "right" response. Our system runs on iteration and feedback, not a gold standard. The "wrong" move can often teach us more.
- Invite range. A wider range means experimentation with something new.. It makes us fluid .. able to meet what arises with curiosity instead of bracing.
Where resilience lives
Our mind-brain-body is speaking in every moment, through patterns and micro-signals.
The question isn't IF we'll listen.
It's whether we'll trust that what you sense is intelligent,
even when it's uncomfortable...and let it guide our next iterations.
Wishing you moments of sensing and facilitating nervous system intelligence...
Stefanie
