Do you truly believe that growth is possible? That you have the ability to find new ways through whatever it is you’re going through?
That one small shift of mindset is the first, critical starting point. Without that shift, your mind will not be ‘given instructions’ to find alternate paths forward. Without that shift, the algorithm only includes the possibility that the past must repeat and that the future will be the same as it currently is now. This activates your circuits to focus on whatever details (both externally and within your own thoughts) confirm that the future will not look different than whatever your state is now.
The first shift always starts with recognizing that change and growth are possible. And that you have mechanisms within you to make the next scene or chapter of your life into something that feels better for you. As soon as your brain-body system gets a glimpse of a future that feels more enticing, all of the neurochemical, attentional and sensorimotor resources it has will begin to orchestrate a strategy to get you to that new point. Your awareness will open up to notice something you may have not been noticing… such as someone in your life who really needs you and values your existence, who loves you. You may notice a book, a podcast, a class, the voice of a person who inspires a glimmer of excitement within you for the possibility of new ideas for how you can create change in your situation.
You don’t need all the answers to begin that shift. The shift begins with the mindset - the neural activity that helps you to recognize your ability to notice your own power and the support that exists around you. Notice who that is… do THEY believe in growth and evolution? Do they take steps to update and improve what doesn’t feel good to them? Do they believe in your capacity to do that?
Your mindset is greatly influenced by the data you allow into your senses. To update the thoughts that influence your behavior, you must update that data by seeking sources of information that help you notice your capacity and the human capacity for evolution and growth.
With Love from Me to You