I use the phrase nervous system literacy to talk about ‘how we talk about’ nervous system regulation - whether it’s about states, tolerance, regulation, tools, techniques.
What I mean by ‘literacy’ is an ability to read nervous systems. What they might be experiencing and what might serve them*
*(although we never have a perfect answer, and it’s always about context, iterating and responding to ongoing feedback about if something is ‘working’)
It’s an ability to notice and interpret what is happening with a living system: micro-movements, signals, fluctuations
And then respond to what is actually happening with a greater sense of attunement and precision.
This is different than labeling or naming nervous system states.
A person might know words like fight, flight, freeze and dysregulation…
but still miss the most useful information.
Where is their attention moving and what is quality of it (flitting around, inward, outward, past or future-focused). What does this do to their eye movement and facial expression?
Does their energy feel like it’s increasing, decreasing or fluctuating?
Does their body want to move toward something, pull away from it or become very still?
Are they reaching for connection, or becoming aversive to it?
The label might be accurate.
But the label can sometimes narrow our focus...
This narrowing of focus might blur out signals and patterns that help us see some of what triggers us into protection or spark us into exploration.
This matters because nervous system regulation doesn’t mean being calm and collected all the time.
It is about range, repertoire, flexibility and adaptation.
It’s about a capacity to notice what is changing and make an adjustment that helps us become more flexibly adaptive to each unfolding micro moment and context we are in.
And for those of us who teach, coach, lead or support others, nervous system literacy changes the questions we ask.
Instead of immediately thinking:
What technique should I use or what state are they in?
We can explore:
What is happening here on a micro-signal level?
What am i noticing in a face, muscle movements, voice, hand grip, posture, etc..
What is this system possibly detecting, and using their past-based predictions to interpret this?
What might help it access a little more flexibility?
That is the deeper purpose of nervous system literacy.
It’s about expanding beyond nervous system parts and labels and moving into a space that honestly is less certain and stable.
It’s a dynamic, fluid place of really trying to attune to the vibrations we experience inside of us and together with others.
It can be less comfortable to open up to that than to have a label or term
(which again, they are not wrong - all of those can be incredibly useful as starting points).
I’ve spent my career studying signals and frequencies.. And helping people create more of the ones they want.
I’ve learned that we notice more of ourselves and our world when we don’t rush to fit what we notice into a label.
Some changes are out of reach for us to fit into one word
(and this especially applies to younger people and those who have a hard time connecting their feelings to names of feelings)
With deep respect and gratitude for your nervous system contributions to the collective...
Stefanie
P.S. Nervous system literacy helps us notice more of what is happening.
The next step is being able to translate what we notice into language other people can understand and trust.
If you’re a coach, leader or practitioner helping people change patterns, regulate their nervous systems or transform how they respond, the science underneath your work can help more people recognize its value.
So much deeply transformational work gets dismissed as “soft skills” because people don’t understand the biological mechanisms underneath it.
When you can explain those mechanisms clearly, your work becomes easier to understand, trust and take seriously.
That’s what I mean when I say scientific framing changes nervous system buy-in.
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