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Stefanie Faye

Stefanie Faye
Do you go through a lot of highs and lows when it comes to your emotions and feelings? There are many reasons for why this occurs, and there is nothing necessarily wrong or right about these fluctuations. But if you're feeling a lack of control, or a sense of overwhelm or disruption due to having emotional swings, then it might be useful to learn about two specific dimensions of emotions and what might take us into our highs and lows. “Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary.” -Fred Rogers ________ Neuroscience workshops to improve life outcomes For leaders, parents, teachers, and individuals who want to learn how neuroscience can guide us to optimize life performance and help us become who we need to be to best serve those around us. . These workshops can also serve as a foundation for neuroscience-informed professional development training for coaches, counselors and other professionals who work in fields related to human learning, wellness, resilience and performance October's Topic - Neuroplasticity: how early experiences shape the brain and life trajectories Learn how brains develop over the lifespan and how early experiences shape brain architecture. We’ll explore how this knowledge can help us increase our understanding of our own past, and how the concept of neuroplasticity can empower us to take charge of our present conditions and ongoing evolution - as individuals, families and as a species Learn more and get a free mini book on human resilience at: https://stefaniefaye.com/human-systems-resilience-mini-book/ #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #empath #empathy #neuroscience #mindset #mindfulness
Empathy plays an important role in adaptive social relations, self-esteem and social competence However, if we don’t understand the different types of empathy and how we can navigate them, being too empathic can lead to challenges in our own mental health and relationships. Find out what we can do to use empathy in ways that help us connect, without falling into the traps that can happen when we over-use it. ____________________ Neuroscience Workshop October 3! Neuroplasticity: how early experiences shape the brain and life trajectories Learn how brains develop over the lifespan and how early experiences shape brain architecture. We’ll explore how this knowledge can help us increase our understanding of our own past, and how the concept of neuroplasticity can empower us to take charge of our present conditions and ongoing evolution - as individuals, families and as a species. Learn more and get a free mini book on human resilience at: https://stefaniefaye.com/human-systems-resilience-mini-book/ #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #empath #empathy #neuroscience #mindset #mindfulness
We all have emotion regulation strategies. We all have strategies for navigating stress and communicating with others. <br /><br />The question is… are those actually working the way we want them to? <br />Are we achieving the state that we really want and the outcomes we really want? <br /><br />To answer those questions, AND get better at not repeating behaviors that don’t serve us, there is an important two-part formula we can use, which I explain in this video.<br /><br />Because we are energy-conserving creatures, our natural preference will generally lean towards doing things the way we’ve always done them, without questioning them.  <br /><br />Unfortunately, this can lead us to experience unwanted patterns over and over again in our relationships, decision-making and daily life. <br /><br />To get the full article plus research citations, go to: stefaniefaye.com/articles/emotion-regulation-skills<br /><br />#mentalhealth #neuroscience #emotionalintelligence #emotionregulation <br /><br />____________<br />JOIN THE NEXT ONLINE WORKSHOP!<br /><br />October: Neuroplasticity and early childhood: How life experiences affect brain development and life trajectories<br /><br />November: Emotion Regulation: Mastering our nervous system across the lifespan<br /><br />December: Attachment and Affiliative hormones: how our drive to connect can impair or enhance our lives<br /><br />January: Distortions and filters: Why communicating and understanding others is harder than we think<br /><br />February: What are emotions? A look at appraisals and coping<br /><br />March: Vibrational Beings: How others’ frequencies affect and reflect our hearts and minds<br /><br />April: 'Use your words': How language helps us regulate<br /><br />May: Empathy and Social Understanding: Dangers, myths and benefits<br /><br />June: Relational resilience: How to use neuroscience to build thriving families, partnerships and communities.<br /><br /><br />To learn more and register go to: stefaniefaye.com/online-neuroscience-education/
Learn how to use neuroscience to regulate your nervous system, improve intimacy and connection, and improve your decision making. Get a better understanding of your own emotional reactions to help you navigate them in ways that improve your relationships, moods and sense of wellbeing. Starting September 12! #neuroscience #mentalhealth #emotionalintelligence #resilience
Boundaries and a sense of power reflect important nervous mechanisms that play a role in relational dynamics and emotional strength. The idea of anger & aggression is controversial. On the one hand, when we don’t have control of it, particularly when it is driven by unconscious forces, - such as unresolved trauma… aggression & anger can be projected to the wrong people at the wrong time. There are many things in life that are not threatening. But because of our lack of awareness, we may see them as that, and become angry and aggressive for the wrong reasons. Sometimes empathy is required. Empathy and compassion are elements that help us get along with others. But many of us have been taught to focus almost exclusively on empathy. To be polite and agreeable. Unfortunately, in certain situations, such as when someone wants to do harm to another, the sympatho-excitatory circuits involved in fighting or running away, are needed. Anger can be a powerful force for change. It is what mobilizes our system into action, rather than submission, cowering or defeat. Neurophysiologically, the systems we use that are associated with anger have to do with perceiving an obstruction to a goal, and a perceived ability to remove or navigate that challenge, threat or obstacle. These systems activate blood flow to neural circuits and skeletal (voluntary, striated) muscles that change our voice, body movements and decision processes. When used as a power for enhancing life, these elements of anger can be a wake-up call for others and a source of strength for ourselves.  Flexibility & access to a VARIETY of responses is the key to healthy social & psychological functioning. Completely suppressing our access to a feeling of self protection & anger robs an essential sympathoexcitatory ‘gear’ from the mechanics of that system. When we know we have an ability to protect our personal boundaries using a wide range of responses - whether psychological tactics, voice, gestures, posture, presence and training - this creates stronger internal working models that have a higher number of choice points in each situation. All of this adds complexity to the brain and requires deeper psychological understandings of ourselves, our triggers. It requires us to learn about and rehearse scenarios mentally and physically ahead of time to activate those complex circuits. More complexity = more choices, which means more sound reasoning used to make decisions instead of reacting from an exclusively primitive, unconscious state. Range and repertoire are key. Extremely grateful to the empowering communities of @fieldcraftsurvival & @sbgmontana for what I’m learning. I just finished a personal security course with Fieldcraft survival and it was a great experience. More training & insights to come! Oh and full YT video on this YouTube.com/c/stefanieffaye link in story! Reflection: If you’ve been taught to only be polite, not speak up.. has this affected how you react to situations that make you uncomfortable?
I spent several hours yesterday (as I do almost every day) with people's brainwaves and team meetings about self-regulation strategies.  Decided to make a short video with some thoughts and themes emerging through book-writing and working with clients. Go to http://stefaniefaye.com for more articles and podcast episodes
One of the most common brainwave profiles I’ve seen with clients over the years are related to anxiety.  This is often correlated with very fast frequencies (high beta). (see video below) A neurochemical that I think is not talked about enough but that actually has ‘anxiolytic’ (lowers anxiety) and anti-stress effects is Oxytocin.  Oxytocin is based on bonding and affiliation.  It is part of a biobehavioral synchrony mechanism that helps us attune to another person.  It makes up parent-child, friendship and romantic bonds.  Oxytocin is actually also connected with the dopamine-reward system.  The better we get at connecting with others, the more rewarding human connections in general become. This system is enhanced when we engage in touch, eye gaze and using our voice - all things that are most powerful when we can be in person.  This is why it’s so important for us to find ways to connect in real-time with people. Having time with my friends' kids lately has made me realize how urgently we must acknowledge the importance of the bonding and affiliation system within families.   The research is clear that mental health issues in the long-term have very strong connections to what happens when this system is disrupted.   When attunement and synchrony are not there, it impairs the circuits involved in stress regulation, empathy for others’ distress, perspective taking, leadership, ability to resolve conflicts, ability to decipher subtle social cues, plus many more issues (which I’ll likely go into in the next podcast episode)  What we are seeing unfolding in society today is interwoven with the lack of attunement and biobehavioral synchrony of the mammalian-affection and bonding system. More to come on this topic. I think that social media and technology are disrupting these systems.  It’s part of Chapter 5 of my book that I'm currently writing so thought I would send a short preview!
“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence.<br />When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.”<br /><br />-Thich Nhat Hanh<br /><br />here's a quick video I recorded with some thoughts and themes I'm exploring for the book and future content. <br /><br />The quality of presence... how do the micro-signals and rhythms of being present affect us and others?
Here’s a preview of Episode 8 of the Mindset Neuroscience Podcast - an interview with Kelly Harris from Warriors Heart healing and treatment center.<br /><br />We explore post-traumatic growth, root causes of anxiety and depression, core beliefs and the importance of a sense of belonging and acceptance on the journey of transformation and healing for active duty military, veterans and first responders.<br /><br />Find out more at <br /><br />https://www.warriorsheart.com<br /><br />And subscribe at <br /><br />https://stefaniefaye.com <br /><br />to get full-length articles and episodes as soon they’re up.
“I can shake off everything as I write, my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn” - Anne Frank Journaling and writing are ways to activate circuits related to the ‘subsymbolic realms’ (the visceral, sensory and kinetic) in connection with the symbolic realm of words and graphics. Resilience research shows that the better we get at nuancing and describing how we feel, the better we get at navigating feelings of anxiety, overwhelm, grief, depression. In studies on veterans, Written Exposure Therapy has shown to have strong positive effects on helping with post-traumatic stress. It’s a chance to release what has happened in the past onto a page so it can be processed in new ways. Journaling and writing about your experiences gives you two key things:- An ability to monitor your thoughts on display.. this helps you see yourself from a different viewpoint. You get to create a space between you (the observer, the witness), and what you are creating as thoughts and narratives- A space to express where you are not performing or seeking approval or likes. You are not waiting for someone else’s reactions. This allows the signals from your body to flow freely into an outward expression into the physical, tangible realm - without fear of how someone will react. An invitation this week: in the evening, if you normally pick up your phone to ‘relax’, put your phone into another room and take out a journal. Write whatever comes to mind, for at least 15-20 minutes, longer if it feels good. Let it be free-form and just see what happens. Sometimes there are parts of us, that sense that they finally have a chance to express, and let us know about things we weren’t aware of. It can be a re-calibrating experience. I’ll be interviewing a wonderful organization this week called Warriors Heart Healing to talk about various modalities and ways of helping veterans integrate and heal from post traumatic stress. You can get the article as soon as it’s posted by subscribing at Stefaniefaye.com
We can use relationships and human connection to build resilience.  We do this by improving our ability to lower our defensiveness and self-protection in situations where we want connection and understanding. In this video, I give some ideas on how to do this. <br /><br />* In the beginning of this video I mention that we are wired for surveillance - however, this ability to detect unusual patterns and warning signs can be severely hampered when we are distracted, lost in thought, on our phones, zoned out.  The concepts I am covering in this video are related to situations where we have already established that we are physically safe engaging with another person.<br /><br />"Our great challenge is to apply the lessons of neural plasticity, the flexibility of brain circuits, to rewire the brains and re-organize the minds of people who have been programmed by life itself to experience others as threats and themselves as helpless.” - Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D., The Body Keeps the Score<br /><br />I'll be sending out a newsletter later this morning with a full article related to the video. If you'd like to receive it, make sure to subscribe at <br /><br />http://stefaniefaye.com/mindset-neuroscience-resources
"The fact of storytelling hints at a fundamental human unease, hints at human imperfection. Where there is perfection there is no story to tell.” – Ben Okri, poet and novelist Story-telling is an art and a way for us to use the magnificent machinery of our breath, voice, face and hands as tools to help others know what we are feeling deeply inside. This is more of an experiment for some things I'd like to explore with in-person, team- and partner-oriented events next year 🙂 If you’d like to learn more about these kinds of events, go to stefaniefaye.com and subscribe! You can also read the article related to this video at stefaniefaye.com/articles/signals-and-stories
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